There are many things the heart is not but we can honestly claim one thing that it is: deceptive. How deceptive can the organ that proves that I still have life be?
After healing, comes self-discovery but most importantly we cannot grow through self if we still spend time dragging dark paints over our hearts. If we brood over things we cannot change, people who let us down and pain from the past, then we behave like the an obsessed dog on heat ready to be smeared in its own vomit. If we painfully or continuously recount all the money, time and opportunities we’ve lost, then we refuse to look forward.
Life is such that although we live it, sometimes another writes it’s episodes if we hand over our pen to them. I’m not only talking about the past. I’m talking about the present. They say first fool no be fool and second fool no be fool but the third fool na ebe fool. I wish this was so. Sometimes, we don’t learn on time or earlier the things we need to and so we set ourselves up through a cycle. Givers of love are not fools. In fact, nothing beats a person with clean intentions and a pure heart. If you receive love dishonestly, then you become the fool. If the heart isn’t enthused about the love being shared, be honest. Tell it.
But truth be told, if you give love and you’re left to maneuver through it yourself, it’s hard and so when people leave, let them. Let them walk not because you no longer want them but do so because that’s evidence of a thoughtful examination of self that thrives to grow with the right people around. People who truly value you and know your worth won’t make you feel like you’re for sale and thus, ask for discounts over your head. They won’t even think of leaving because they know your value.
I overheard someone say this sometime ago, “She will never find someone better than I am.” Well, I’m sorry to say this but we sometimes flatter ourselves with vague thoughts such as these. It’s true that we could’ve been good to them but we cannot be judges of who comes into another’s life.
So instead of beating yourself up and crashing yourself down. You rather need to dress heart. The human heart works like a pump sending blood around your body to keep you alive. This blood delivers oxygen and nutrients to all parts of your body, and carries away unwanted carbon dioxide and waste products.
I am challenging you to do this. It’s very crucial that your heart beats. Without that heart beat you wouldn’t be alive today. Do a proper self-assessment and evaluation of your life. Sometimes people isn’t the problem but you are because you avoid the truth that you cover up causing the toxicity you exhibit and allow from others. We only endure what we allow and not otherwise.
Maybe no one sees the skeletons in your closet but one day, when we draw closer we’d realize the devil in the details.
To me, dressing your heart means you forgive yourself. Dressing your heart means you forgive others. Dressing your heart means you accept that you need change. It also means that although people hurt you, you still love genuinely.
The reason many fail whiles going through the healing process is because they want to get healed now. They want it all at once. I don’t know about you but I believe that healing takes time. It takes a while. Sometimes it takes years. Be honest with yourself. Cry, jump, scream, run and sing but still be honest with yourself. Dance, complement others, treat others right, embrace them, acknowledge their strengths but never compare yourself to them. Your healing will only happen if you’re ready to let go off all the things that exist to hold you back.
Self-deception is a strong setback that can lead you to make stupid and hasty decisions. There’s always a still small voice that speaks to our soul but our soul sometimes finds forbidden fruits very pleasing to the eye and so instead of breaking free, we break in and let go off hope. Then we pretend like we’re okay and strong enough.
You can’t dress your heart if you are not healed. You can’t dress your heart if you dine and feast with deception of self.Obviously, dressing your heart includes letting go and being strategically focused on what will be instead of brooding over what could’ve been.
I can’t tell what you’re going through. You feel the pain. You know your story but for how long will you tell this story? It doesn’t take a perfect person to make a good journey. Sometimes it’s the people with the worst beginnings, broken homes and painful pasts that live to build empires. It is in your struggle that you’d discover your strengths within. Today, pick your diary and write what you feel deep down inside of you. Speak your truth. Your healing is the dress rehearsals you cannot negotiate with. It’s the process to mending all the broken parts of you.
We are still at the bridge and healing is water. It’s preparing us for a solo journey where we will rediscover and uncover parts and pieces of ourselves. It is through this journey we’d know who we truly are. We looked for healing and today, as we courageously take off, we believe that we’d definitely applaud ourselves for our strength and growth when we get to the end of the tunnel.
After healing: love again, dream again, plan again, try again and never give up.